How Responsible Are You?

There is a common misconception that somehow, somewhere, someone is responsible for filling our lives with happiness, exciting career options, nurturing family time, and joyful personal relationships.

The truth is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live.

That person is you.

Doctors don’t – make you healthy

Teachers don’t – make you learn

Trainers don’t – make you fit

Coaches don’t – make you rich

At some point, you have to realize your growth is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.

Everything, you experience in your life is 100% your responsibility. THIS IS NOT EASY.

I know I struggled a lot with this concept and still do to some extent. At various degree we have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents, the economy, our boss, our friends, our coworkers, our husband/wife, the weather, the government – basically anything or anyone we can blame except where the real problem is – ourselves.

How responsible are you for your life? Keep in mind, this is a yes or no question. You either are or you aren’t.

This is hard, but it is also deliberating. Once you take full responsibility for your life and give up blaming and complaining you are regaining control of your life. You acknowledge that all your results, successes as well as failures, is created by you.

When you acknowledge that you have created your current conditions, you can uncreate and re-create them to create the future you want.

You have to operate from a standpoint that you have, and always had, the power within you to produce a different result. But for whatever reason, you have chosen not to use this power. The reason why you have chosen this is irrelevant. The past is the past.

Moving forward, if something does not turn out the way you planned. Ask yourself. How did I create that? What were my beliefs? What did I say or not say? What did I do or not do? What do I need to do differently next time?

Dr. Robert Resnick created a very simple formula to illustrate this.

E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome).

Based on this formula you have two options if you don’t like the outcome you get.

  • You can blame the event. The economy, government, gender, education system, or anything else outside your control.
  • You can change your response to the event. Change your communication, your thinking, the pictures in your head, your behavior, and all other things that are within your control.

There is tremendous power in this approach when you realize that you are truly the creator of your circumstances.


This is far from easy and therefore I have a challenge for you. For 7 days you have to give up blaming and complaining. This gives you a perception of your current thought patterns and how responsible you are.

To make the challenge even more interesting – every time you find yourself, blaming or complaining, you have to start over.

Live with Karma


Co-founder, UnlimitedKarma

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