Are You Unable or Unwilling?

Are you unable to change or unwilling?

Think about the above question.

Very often when I talk to people they claim they want to create change in their lives but not able to do so right now.

The truth, however, is that the reason why they want to change is not strong enough.

If you have a strong enough reason, you will be able to change. If you have come to a crossroads in your life where you say “enough is enough” you will find the inner power to change – no matter what.

I know this from my own experience, I thought I wanted to change but for many years I did nothing about it. I had a good job, earned good money, lived in a nice house, drove a nice car, and went with my family on a nice vacation every year. I was comfortable, but something nagged inside of me. I got less and less excitement and joy from the work I was doing. To get up in the morning to go to work got harder and harder. My energy levels dropped until one day I could not see the point of why I was doing what I was doing anymore.

I could search for another job with the risk of getting a similar deal with another employer, but this was not what I wanted. I wanted a true change.

One day was the tipping point where I went from I want to change my life to I MUST change my life. Now, the reason was bigger then the excuses and I took immediate action.

I started to search for other options. This is when I found the SFM and my life took a new direction.

Do you have a big enough reason?

Another aspect of why your reason is so important is that when you decide to change and do something new you will be questioned. By your loved ones (husband/wife, parents, brothers/sisters, etc), by your friends and by former colleagues. There are two reasons for this:

  • They are used to you being in a certain way. That you are a certain person. If you decide to change, their relationship with you will change automatically. Therefore, the reason that they don’t want you to change is FEAR. Fear, that you will grow and not have the same need/relationship with them anymore. It is a very egocentric standpoint and has nothing to do with you but is based on their own limitations.


  • They are jealous. Maybe, they want to change as well but don’t have the courage to do so. So, instead of supporting you and encourage you, they will question your decision. “Have you really thought this through? You have such a good job” and similar statements are not uncommon.


For you to push through these barriers you need to have a big enough reason and a supporting structure to back you when things are tough.

This is the beauty of SFM, you will have a community of people to reach out to, people who have been through what you are experiencing, and will support and help you overcome these obstacles. This is unique and very powerful. Even though you work for yourself and the entire purpose of SFM is to train and prepare you to stand on your own two feet and building a successful lifestyle business that suits your personality and interests – you are never alone. When you need help, just ask for it and you will get it.

When is a good time to make the change?

First and foremost, there is no such thing as “the right time”.

The right time occurs when you decide so. Regardless of when you make the decision you will face challenges, obstacles, and frustration towards creating your new way of living.

Look at your current situation. Can you see yourself continue the same way for another 5, 10, or 20 years? Does that picture excite you? If not, time to do something about it. There is an old Chinese proverb that goes

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second-best time is now”.

Don’t procrastinate. It is your life and you deserve to live it on your terms and according to your rules.

Live with Karma


Co-founder, Unlimited Karma

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